This mother’s day is difficult for my family since we lost my grandmother just weeks ago. She was 95 and until about a week before she went into the hospital, she was as with-it as anyone, of any age, could be. She was the one we’d go to and say, “Can you remind me to…. fill in the blank… because I know I’ll forget.” And she would always oblige. My grandmother was my buddy, my biggest fan, my sounding board. The hole in my heart will never completely heal and, in truth, I don’t want it to. It’s my tribute to the love she showered on me. She left a gaping void and no one, absolutely no one, will ever be able to fill it.
So she will be remembered on all days, not just on Mother’s Day.
Which is what I hope we all do for those we love. One special day to show love for our moms is wonderful. Moms deserve a full day – and more – to be pampered. But shouldn’t we all express our feelings on more than one day per year?
Treat each day as Thanksgiving, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day… and be thankful and thoughtful to yourself and all those around you. Time waves by too quickly to comprehend, until one day when you think back, you’ll realize and say, “Has it been that long?”
Don’t let it be too long between thank you’s and I love you’s. And don’t just use the words. Thank you’s and I love you’s come in many styles – flowers, calls just to say hi, a handwritten note, a visit, a chat over coffee. So many people stress about what to get Mom for Mother’s Day when, if you think about it, giving Mom just a little more of you throughout the year would make her wake on Mother’s Day knowing she’s loved not because the calendar says she should be but because you truly feel it in your heart.
Who could ask for more than than?